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Everybody in my cabin on the plane home groaned when the pilot said we were leaving Hawaii. It’s a completely different atmosphere inside the cabin going home than it was on the flight out to Hawaii, and then eventually later on to Vanuatu. I guess even if you were going to the islands for work and not pleasure, people are in a better mood than they are returning to the mainland. Nobody wants to go back to reality, especially not me, although returning to Sacramento real estate is my job, and it’s a job I love.
Part of it I suppose is the fact when you’re on vacation, you don’t have to allocate much time to taking care of yourself because somebody else does it for you. They make your bed, pick up your wet towels from the floor and empty your waste-paper baskets. They knock gently on your door, bringing you muffins and hot coffee. All of your meals are catered and made for you. Your laundry arrives, folded.
Come to think of it now, that’s not much different than my life at home. Well, the difference is it is foggy and cold outside in Sacramento this morning. My view is not that of palm trees and the ocean. And I was so discombobulated last night that when a seller called me to say she had locked herself out of her house, and I drove over to help her out, I managed to drive all the way back to Land Park without my lights turned on.
Nobody honked at me or waved or yelled to let me know that I didn’t have my lights on. Fortunately, it was just down Broadway a little bit, but still. I noticed it when I passed Target, that it was fairly dark. Oh, duh. That’s because my lights weren’t on. See, it’s been a long time since I’ve driven in the dark. Longer than the month I had been gone on my winter vacation. I turned on my lights at my garage when I pulled out, but turned them off when I pulled into my seller’s driveway. It wasn’t an autopilot thing to turn them back on as I fumbled for my bluetooth device to stick back into my ear.
Well, tomorrow it is back to work in full force and back to Sacramento real estate for this traveler. I’ve been halfway around the world and back over the last 30 days. Hope you’ve enjoyed the photos and stories.
Groundhog Day from Vanuatu to Hawaii on New Year’s Day 2015
Traveling from Vanuatu to Hawaii means crossing once again the International Date Line. Hearing about the International Date Line in grade school was fascinating to me because I could not wrap my head around the idea that it was a day later on the other side. I understood time zones — when it was 6 PM in Minneapolis, it was 5 PM in Colorado and 4 PM in California, but that 24-hour thing was confusing and it still is.
It wasn’t much fun losing a day when I flew from the United States to Vanuatu, via Australia. In fact, I wondered why I made a reservation for a check-in date of 12/19 when I didn’t actually check in at Eratap Resort until 12/20, and yet I paid for a whole day I didn’t get. In retrospect, that seems like a ripoff. But getting in after midnight I was happy just to have a spot to plunk my head.
The trip today will be worse, I fear, even though I leave this morning from Vanuatu and will arrive in Molokai, Hawaii, this afternoon, after traveling for more than a day. I get the day back that I lost on the way out. Like Bill Murray’s Groundhog Dog, I get a do-over.
It is New Year’s Day for me and New Year’s Eve for you, if you’re reading my blog on the day it is published. The resort woke me this morning at 4:30 AM. Good thing I wasn’t out hooting and hollering all night, and the fireworks did not keep me up. Still, nobody should be up at 4:30 in the morning unless one hasn’t yet gone to bed. Just doesn’t seem natural.
My plane leaves Vanuatu at 7 AM and flies to Sydney, about a 3-hour flight. I will go through customs and immigration and then check back in on another level to get my boarding pass to Honolulu, which doesn’t leave until 6 PM. I could grab a taxi and drive about Sydney, which I might consider but who am I kidding? There are plenty of portals at the Sydney airport to play Ingress, and that will keep me occupied for a few hours. When I visit Sydney for real, I’d like to do it with my husband.
I will land in Honolulu around 6:00 in the morning, and go though immigration and customs again because I arrived from Australia. It will be a long wait at the airport for my flight to Molokai. I’ve never been to Molokai, and some people have warned me it will be too boring. Boring is good. No planes, no deadlines, no pressure and, best of all, it will still be New Year’s Day when I land in Molokai. My cellphone will work again, but who cares? Who calls you on New Year’s? When I look back on this trip, I bet traveling from Vanuatu to Hawaii won’t seem that bad after all.
A Trip to the Kava Bar and the Village of Tanoliu, Vanuatu
For those who worry about trying Kava in Vanuatu, my experience is everybody made a much bigger deal out of it than it actually was. The staff at the Havannah Resort warned me not to have more than one cup of Kava and that two cups of Kava might be pushing it. As it turned out, it mostly made me a bit sick to my stomach but I didn’t get the high or euphoric reaction I had been expecting.
We sat on a wooden bench under a makeshift lean-to of sorts with a dirt floor, waiting for Lietau’s son to finish mixing the Kava. Lietau Harry has 4 sons and hails from the island of Tanna. She came to Efate Island to teach secondary school, and met her future husband, Charlie, in the village of Tanoliu. After raising a family, and she is now a grandmother, Lietau went to work at the Havannah Resort in housekeeping.
She walks to work from the village of Tanoliu down a blacktop road along the beach, and then veers off on a dirt path that takes her to the resort. They say it’s a 10-minute walk, but at our pace it was about 30 minutes. Along the way Lietau showed me pummelos, mangoes, coconuts, avocados, oranges and bananas growing on the other side of the road. If I heard her correctly, her husband’s brother is chief of the village.
When her son finished mixing the Kava, I asked him how much I should pay. 55 Vatu. I had only American money, so I handed him a dollar. He turned it around and examined the paper. He was a quiet for a few minutes, then asked: how much is this in Vatu? About 100 Vatu. He was OK with that, I told him to keep the change and he handed me the cup of Kava. He has actual glass cups shaped like the kind that used to come with punch bowl sets, but no handles. Maybe they were dessert bowls. I had been expecting the Kava in a coconut shell but some places don’t serve it that way, I guess.
The water was a muddy brown, nothing at all like the Kava I saw him chopping up earlier. The Kava itself is sort of a light yellow root. Lietau was gracious enough to take me to her family home, which is situated high up a hill and was a bit of a climb. All of her sons and their families live below in handmade huts. The kitchen is typically separate from the house and consists of a tower of stones, a pile of fire-starting material made from dried fronds, a mat they used for dining, and the structure is encased in chicken wire with a tin roof.
There is not much electricity; no live TV, they gather around an oil lamp at night. Lietau and Charlie’s son, Peter, which they pronounce Petah, built his own kickboxing and workout area. Part of it includes a log planted upright in the dirt with bars made from wood and attached perpendicular. After he twirls around and kicks the bag secured to the log, he then pumps his arms up and down between the bars for strength. He won a bronze medal in Port Vila. Says he is “maybe 21,” when I ask and shoots a help-me-glance at his mom.
They have a horse they keep across the road on the side of the ocean, and a pony is tied up in the yard. Of course, they raise chickens and Charlie showed me their stash of chicken eggs in the nest. Lietau continued to warn me that I should watch where I was walking because if I hurt myself, I still needed to walk all the way back to Havannah Resort. I wondered if she had this problem before where a guest had injured herself and could not leave. I could think of worse places to be laid up, that’s for sure. This place was paradise.
On the way to the Kava Bar, Lietau asked one of her sons to climb the coconut tree and gather us a few coconuts. He handed his mother his music device and earplugs and darted across the street. I was amazed at how quickly he scooted up the tree. It was as though his arms simply pulled him up and his legs ran around the trunk. He tossed 3 coconuts to the road. Lietau cut them open with a huge butcher knife, slicing the sides at a diagonal until she got down to the skin.
This was young coconut, not the dried brown type. Once we got to the skin, Lietau cut off the top revealing a small hole and handed me the coconut. The water wasn’t as coconut-ty as I expected but it was a refreshing drink in the heat. I drank about half of it and handed the coconut back to Lietau, who finished it off. Then she cut it in half and used a piece of coconut shell to scoop out the flesh, which we also ate. It, too, wasn’t really like a coconut but instead more almond-like.
Her granddaughter Sarah grabbed a big chunk of it, and soon her face was covered in coconut, with pieces of the flesh stuck to her legs. Sarah has the longest eyelashes I’ve ever seen on a little girl. She’s gonna knock ’em out when she grows up. Lietau thought nothing of handing the toddler her butcher knife to put away. I wanted to jump up from the mat and help her but instead thought otherwise. Not really my place. I was a guest and a very fortunate guest at that.
We walked down to the river to visit Lily washing clothes. Lily also works in housekeeping at Havannah Resort. It was more like a private pond in the middle of the water. Children swam while Lily and her family pounded clothing. They had backed a pickup truck down by the river to load up the clothing after the family finished washing. It was pretty much a weekly ordeal. I met a gorgeous woman there and asked if I could take her photograph. At first she was shy and somewhat reluctant. I explained that she was beautiful and deserved to be captured in a photo for eternity. Her eyes lit up, and I could see the proudness in her soul emerge and begin to shine. It was a moment that almost made me cry.
Glancing back at the women washing clothes, I saw them eyeing me suspiciously like what in the world was I doing? Back at the Kava hut, Lietau’s son handed me the glass of Kava. Lietau grabbed my camera to take a photo. Her son decided to get in on the action, too, and he raised his cellphone. I stood there in the dirt trying not to dribble any of the brown water down the front of my shirt and downed the drink in one huge gulp. It didn’t taste bad. Not at all like I was prepared for. A little minty, there was a certain tingle, numbness to the Kava, and a bit of an aftertaste that seemed quite suitable. I think I shocked my new friends by my reaction. They clapped.
Did I want water? No, but I’d take another Kava. They suggested I sit for a few minutes to determine how I would ultimately react. I noticed Lietau looking at me strangely. Was my face in some kind of contortion, I wondered, of which I was unaware? Nope, she wanted to know what the front of my shirt read. It read: Do I Look Like a People Person To You? I shared a story about this shirt, which is one of my favorite t-shirts. How I had been walking through a department store in downtown Sacramento and a stranger approached me to say, Why, Yes, you do. I forgot I was wearing the shirt. I do WHAT? I asked. You look like a people person, the woman responded. Well, F-You, I replied, because I’m not. I just said it because I am a smart aleck. But this story with its abrupt ending sent Lietau and her son into fits of laughter. They found it very funny and endeared themselves to me even more.
Even after my second drink of Kava, I still didn’t feel anything weird. It was near the dinner hour, and Lietau walked me back to the resort. I wouldn’t have found the way by myself, so maybe there was something to the Kava after all.
Musings From A Solo Traveler in Vanuatu on Christmas Day
Some of the resort staff at The Havannah openly felt sorry for me last night at the Christmas Eve party. They said other solo travelers had admitted to feeling strange or out of place because they were not with another person, and they wanted to know if I was uncomfortable. While sweet in sentiment, it seems a bit chauvinistic to me to ask a woman that kind of question when they would not dream of asking a man and, in fact, would probably feel downright silly if they did.
I don’t find it odd nor weird to be by myself. I spend a lot of time alone because I like it. I get along well with myself. I know my desires and how to fulfill them. It’s relaxing, if you want to know the truth, in more ways than if I was with another person because the only person’s opinion that matters about anything at all is my own. Which, when I reflect on it, is not that much different than any other time in any other place with any other person, heh, heh. While I do take into consideration the opinions of other people, often my own opinion trumps.
A woman on the plane from Brisbane to Vanuatu, trying to be helpful I suppose, suggested I download an app that would help me find people to travel with. She did not seem to understand that I do not want to find people to travel with. It’s enjoyable being a solo traveler. There are people all around me. I don’t get the opportunity enough. If my husband or friends can’t go on a trip, it’s definitely 100% OK for me to go by myself.
The feeling of independence is one of strength and courage. Not everybody has it or can develop it. You will find it most often in entrepreneurs, people who run their own businesses, which is probably why I make such a good living selling real estate in Sacramento. I can depend on myself and so can others. I feel a strong sense of duty to my clients, and they know without question that I will always be there for them. It’s the same loyalty and conviction I carry for my friends and family because I carry it for myself as well.
When I lounge on my deck on Christmas Day, admiring the multiple shades of turquoise and sapphire blues in the water, feeling the warmth of the sun on my skin, listening to ocean waves break on the beach, and inhaling the scent of Tahiti flowers in Vanuatu, I am not alone.
There is little more precious in the world than peace within yourself. Being a solo traveler can help you to get there.
The Consequences of Our Decisions
With every decision we make in life — or the decision is made for us, without our consent — there are consequences. I’ve learned from that over the years. It’s one of the reasons that I try to stay one step ahead of myself. Or, I could run with this explanation: it’s not a quirk, it’s a personality trait that’s a bit off center. I suspect we all harbor those kinds of thoughts from time to time about ourselves.
For example, during my flight from Honolulu to Brisbane, enroute to Vanuatu, I pawed through an “emergency kit” of sorts, a convenience package they call it. The name made me admire marketing. It’s how Larry Ellison got away with rehabbing an entire island and calling it a “Lanai beautification project.” This convenience package includes toothpaste, a toothbrush, earplugs in case you didn’t bring your own, and other niceties such as socks and a blindfold mask.
I removed my sandals, put on my socks, and was about to dose off when I noticed a dip due to air pressure. We were over the ocean. OK, if the plane were to crash into the water, and I somehow managed to survive, would I be better off with socks on my feet or barefoot? I was thinking probably barefoot was the better option, anything to help keep me from sinking and drowning. On the other hand, socks would provide an insulating layer between me and the %$#* freezing waters, as I frantically paddled about because I could not remember how to pull the stinkin’ cord or blow into the tube, on top of which I was wearing the lifejacket around my ankles.
If only I hadn’t put on those socks.
See, consequences.
This is the type of stuff I think about. Well, that and imagining Captain Kirk out on the wing. Can’t help myself.
I try to be proactive and think about consequences before I do anything. And I pass that kind of protection along to my clients when I sell Sacramento real estate. I’m always trying to think ahead, about what could go wrong and to prevent it. The thing I would hate most to hear from a client is “Why didn’t you tell me this could happen?”
In some cases, unfortunately, an agent may get accused anyway. The problem is I can’t always predict what could happen and, if you want to know the truth, there are a bazillion things that could go haywire in any given transaction at any given time. A veteran agent, an experienced Sacramento Realtor, knows this and takes steps to stop it from occurring. But I can’t read crystal balls. I can’t always know exactly what kind of “left turn without signaling” a buyer might decide to take.
I can’t predict that a buyer in good health will die in the middle of a transaction in a horrific car accident on the way to work. I can’t predict that a mortgage company will go belly-up. I can’t predict that a tree will fall on the house during a Sacramento rainstorm. Stuff happens. But I do believe it happens much less in my escrows because I try to anticipate the consequences of subsequent decisions for my clients.
I can predict that if I try to enter the ocean by swimming past a reef at low tide coupled with high current, I could get slammed face first into the reef by the waves. Coral is sharp. It’s probably not a good idea to run out my front door and jump in the water. Two weeks at a South Pacific paradise helps to prepare me to handle any kind of consequences.
Photos: Eratap Resort, Efate Island, Vanuatu, by Elizabeth Weintraub